Story time!
Over a year ago I decided to change and start my life over. This included leaving my home state, the only comfort zone I know. Moving away from my life long homies. But the pros outweighed the cons. The cost of living in Northern California is ridiculous. My life felt mediocre. I was sick of taking care of my live in boyfriend who only liked to put me down. A month after giving my job notice I jumped shipped and started over. A month after that I reconnected with a man that I’ve know since I was 13. Thanks Facebook. When I was 13 I was totally crushing on this guy. I’d geek out whenever he would talk to me. Sweaty palms and flushed faces was as far as that went. 10yrs later here we are in a ldr and it’s fucking hard. Since our relationship didnt start off by a drunken hook up, we had to actually talk to each other. I had to get to know him and vise versa. This guy knows more about me than anyone else. Ive never felt more comfortable to be myself. It is a ldr, but it’d the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. There’s no games. No bullshit. We are able to see each other every 2mons. Not on purpose, it’s just working out that way. When I see him it doesn’t feel like a vacation, like a “perfect relationhip” that never has it’s downs. It’s real.
Right now there’s no end in sight to the distance. Possibly another year. When we want to see each other we go halves on plane tickets or if I’m not able to spend that kind of $$$ at that time he’ll take it upon himself to fly me out there. His trustworthiness, compassion, and chivalry has gained the respect of my family already without even meeting him yet. I can go on and on. Besides starting my life over, this is the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with. I hate my life for like 2wks after I leave from seeing him. I’m this emotional cry baby. He hangs in there and always supports me and my wahhhhh wahhhhh. After I get back to reality it’s easier to cope and handle things.
Good luck to everyone who’s suffering without their SO. No one understands unless they’ve been through it. Don’t listen to the negative jargon about ldrs. It’s your relationship. Your business. It it’s worth the wait then it’s worth the wait.
