February 2012
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Anonymous asked: He's not my boyfriend but I really really like him. But he has this tendency to basically stop messaging me for days at a time for no apparent reason. I can't tell if he's busy or just doesn't care enough, or just isn't thinking about me. There's nothing I can really do about it, I'm just wondering if you guys have any suggestions for how to keep myself from...
Anonymous asked: I've known this girl for more than 3 months and she wants a relationship. I do too, but what we have now is pretty much one but she wants to make it official. But I just don't know how to ask her out? Any advice?
Anonymous asked: So my LDB is coming to visit sometime in March for the first time ever (YAY!) but my roommate is awful. When I said he was going to come she was like, 'Oh awkward...' and she's very critical of our relationship and stuff. He won't even be staying in our apartment, he knows how she feels about us and he gets very defensive about it. I'm afraid she's going to make a...
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Dissaproval.
Neither of my parents are supportive of my yearlong relationship with my boyfriend. We are 649 miles apart and he is 18 while I am 16 turning 17. And although they wont prevent me from talking to him, I’m afraid of all the restrictions they’ll give me when he comes to visit in May, and it’s just overall hurtful for my parents to be so against someone I’m so in love with....
Anonymous asked: "how do you look at the girl you love and tell yourself it's time to walk away" i've had that quote stuck in my head a lot tonight and well sdkjfhsqwioeruys it's hard. i love her. i'm in love with her. but i don't know what to do. i feel us falling apart. it just feels like we're holding on to what we can. like nothing is there anymore. nothings left but our...
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I need a really good advice!
Hi guys! My boyfriend and I live on a island called Puerto Rico, so we are not that typical LDR that I read everytime that I visit this page. But soo, I would be traveling to study in Portugal for a few months. He doesn’t know yet, and I don’t know how to tell him. He have been always comprehensive about every decision about my future, but since we are building a house before marriage,...
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Anonymous asked: my ldb just told me that sometimes he doesnt feel like he's in a relationship cause we barely see each other, I know he didnt mean it in a hurtfull way but it just made me so sad, it's like I'm not a real girlfriend or something, I dont know , ah well :(
Anonymous asked: I guess I have a long distance crush.He is wonderful and I have found over the past 3 years I have come to love him dearly, I would love to be with him. When we first started talking he had a girlfriend, they broke up about a year ago.I didn't feel bad about telling him my feelings as he was single, but I have just found out he lied to me and he's not and now everything he's said to...
Anonymous asked: the distance got to my ldb and he broke up with me... is there any way i could prove to him that it could all work out before i lose him for good?
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Anonymous asked: My SO has been experiencing a lot of gender dysphoria since we first met, and talking about that was actually what first brought us together. It's gotten worse lately as they've been experimenting with femininity; I get the feeling that they really want to be able to present as female in public, but they also find themselves extremely stressed out by the judgment that could come from...
I’m redoing this as a submit since it was longer than 1 pg for an ask and I don’t know if that made it invalid lol. Anyways, I’m wanting to consider moving to England (from the US), not only to be closer to my long distance love, but because the opportunity may come up for me to get out of where I’m living now and I don’t want to be stuck here any longer....
Anonymous asked: My friends found out my boyfriend and I met online and now they're freaking out and one even threatened to tell my parents... Any ideas to prevent them from doing that? We have already met in person and we've been dating for almost ten months so it's not like I don't know him at all. He treats me so well and I love him to death. My parents think we met through a mutual friend...
Anonymous asked: Hey, I just wanted to say that I had a solid LDR with a boy in Maryland for 2 years and on and off the past two, for a total of four. He's trans and we never got to meet because of then age, money, whatever. He's making a new facebook when the timeline feature is made automatic for his new life as male. He would call me the one that got away, which is fine, even though he pushed me away....
Anonymous asked: I keep following and unfollowing this blog because while I love a lot of the advice that is doled out, it also stresses me out. 1700 miles is a long way, especially when you can't afford to visit. Thanks for everything you guys do, though.
Anonymous asked: I've been talking to a guy I REALLY like (he lives in England, i'm in the us) for 3 months now, I really like him, we skype and stuff, but I haven't ever let him see my whole body because I'm really fat. we're talking about meeting up and stuff and I keep telling him "ohh maybee" even though i really want to. am I lying to him by not letting him know how fat i...
Anonymous asked: There is this guy I've been talking to for months now and we both like eachother. We've skyped a lot and we talk on the phone every night and he says that he believes we have a special connection, But he mentioned today that when we finally see eachother in person, there is a chance the connection might drop. I'm not focusing on the negative, but I'll admit it has me a little...
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I just need to share!
I’ve been in an LDR with my girlfriend for a year. (there were 3 months we were apart, so technically only 2months as of this Sunday, but on and off for a year) but anyway. My mother never accepted that I was in an LDR with someone I have never physically met, and about three weeks after we originally began dating, I was banned from talking to her, forced to delete my twitters, and her...
Anonymous asked: I have been so stressed with school (architecture student here, yeyy) that it just started to affect my health. Of course it affects me mentally, so whenever I'm stressed, I get bitchy and mean and rude. Today my SO was offline all day, as he was with friends. When he came back (his 1am, my 6pm) he wanted to talk, but I told him i prefer not to, as I always hurt people when I'm stressed,...
Anonymous asked: my boyfriend and I we're on LDR. He's a seafarer and i'm here staying home, i miss him so much.. and our communication isn't constant because he travels a lot in the middle of the sea.. i'm so bored and i always think of him.. what should i do not to think of him that much, cause i always stays in bed ending thinking about him.. i know its not healthy
Anonymous asked: I've been in a ldr with my bf for about 7 months. We've never net in person. And ever since day one I've been asking him to Skype me. And his story is, is that his dad won't give him his laptop. And I keep bugging him about it, but he just says his dad refuses to let him.. It worries me.. What do you think I should do about this? :(
Anonymous asked: I'm in a LDR with a boy I've not met in person for 6 months. And my mom isn't supportive at all. She says things like how can you be with someone you've never hung out with? And once you're in a real relationship... I've tried telling her that it hurts my feelings and that our relationship is just as ral as anyone else's, but she just doesnt listen.. It makes me...
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I’ve sent in my story before, but I thought I’d toss in a little update.
I had been having troubles with my boyfriend for nearly two months, he was just busy a lot of the time at school so we wouldn’t talk as much as we usually do, and I was starting to get paranoid that he was easing into breaking up with me. And it’s in my nature to strike back against someone I think is...
Anonymous asked: I have an ldr girlfriend whom I love but lately, I've been having dreams of having sex with this other girl who flirts with me constantly at school. Last night I had a dream that we kissed and it was great but I don't want to act on it in reality. And this girl is quite attractive and I enjoy being around her but I don't want to hurt my gf. I don't know what to do
Anonymous asked: I've been in LDR with my bf. We're about 8000 miles away with 17 hours difference. Well, i need your help here. He's having his birthday on late march, I wanna buy him something that he would use often so he'll remember me always. But idk what to give, he doesn't crave for anything, esp. not shirt, cos he has told me he could buy it himself-.- I asked him what he needs,...
Anonymous asked: In regards to Skype sex, what me and my ldb do is flirt with each other, maybe even cyber a bit before we even get on webcam, just to get each other going, so once we're on webcam we just, you know, get at it. I figure if you start off that way and get each other really worked up that once the webcam goes on there's no awkwardness because you both just crave seeing the other person so...
Anonymous asked: Have you ever been so sure that you found your soul mate, and then one day everything just went downhill? I was so vulnerable, and I've never been so sure of anything in my life that he was the one. I can't even describe to you how perfect he was, we were, just everything. Then one day, it just fell apart. It makes me think like what did I do wrong? Sort of like I wasnt good enough,...
Anonymous asked: (1/2) My girlfriend has always had a hard time finding good things about herself. Her and I love each other very much, and every time she asks me WHY I love her, I don't know what to tell her. I've always told her all the reasons I love her, but she shoots them down because of her low self esteem. She tells me I deserve better so there's never anything I can say to convince her...
Anonymous asked: in respect to the skype sex, and such, we don't have a problem doing it... it's always just really awkward when we start. I can usually tell when I've got him turned on but he never really initiates anything, and I don't really no what to say or do, because I'm shy... we kinda just make funny faces/ awkwardly sit in silence looking at each other at each other for 10-15...
Anonymous asked: My SO won't start conversations with me :(. I'm always the one that has to talk and somedays I just have NOTHING to talk about and he won't even fucking try :(. It gets me upset cause we just sit there in silence for minutes and he won't say a word. UGHHHH :(
So Evan brought up the whole coming to visit thing and he said maybe. That’s like the kiss of death. When he says maybe it means ive got another reason that I don’t want you to visit and I know you’ll be upset so I’m not going to tell you. WTF!
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Anonymous asked: my SO lives in another country and sometimes i just think he is in a relationship with me so he can finally come to the US like he's always wanted to do. what if when he finally gets here he decides he likes the other american girls better and leaves me? i know this most likely isn't the case, but that's what the voice in my head that tells me i'm not worth it always says. :/
Anonymous asked: I met my guy in the summer, nothing happened then though but we ended up hanging out a lot while he was here. We've been talking almost everyday since we met. We know we'd be amazing together and he wants to move here for a while. But now he doesn't know if he's going to be able to make it this summer because of school and I wouldn't be able to go there. I don't want...
floppet asked: the oz/uk submission. I was in a similar situation in that a guy was putting in nil effort and I felt it was all on me. In the end I stopped making the first move, I was disappointed when he didn't chase me. After a week I realised I wasn't that interested anyway. A few months later I was in his town and we met up for a friendly drink. He admitted he'd freaked out cause his feelings...
on-etait-fous asked: Today, two weeks after sending it, my Valentine's Day package arrived to my boyfriend. In the inside, the package was covered with kiss-shaped post-it notes with our moments scribbled :) I sent him chocolate, a plush toy sprayed with my deodorant & pictures of me holding it, a huge map joining both our cities with a marker and our story written on the side, and I might have slipped a pair...
Anonymous asked: My Valentine's Day gift for my girlfriend finally arrived at her place today (it was a necklace), and I could tell that she loved it, but she said it was "too much. What if we don't last?" and things like that. It makes me feel like I shouldn't have gotten it in the first place if she's going to think things like that. She's said stuff like that before when I...
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Advice.
So, I submitted my story in November I think. Here it is. Well, anyways, that was months ago. But now, I thought I was over him, we stopped talking and I met a guy named Alec. Now we’re together and we have been for only 3 months, but I do love Alec. I’m not in love with him, but I love him. Anyways, about a month ago, Jake and I started talking again. We got close and realized...
Anonymous asked: My SO has been really sick for the last couple weeks & we haven't really been able to talk or chat at all, he also said that he's not sure he can do the distance and needs time to think about it. It's so hard waiting & not messaging him every 2 secs asking how he feels, I just say good morning when I get up and that I hope he has a good day and because he's still in bed...
Okay, now submitting.. So my LDB is in England and I’m in Australia. We’ve never spoken on the phone or on webcam, but I keep asking him to get one. He works so much though, and when he’s not working, he’s sleeping. He keeps saying he’ll get a webcam when he gets a chance, but I’m supposed to be going to stay with him in a couple of months and I don’t want...
pitchblackglow:
dear distance,
STOP COCKBLOCKING.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_v4DfkamTnc
just thought this was a really good video for people who wanted tips on an ldr :)
Anonymous asked: about the apps, me and my SO always use whatsapp for messaging eachother through the day and viber for free calls, even though viber also works for texting :)
Anonymous asked: Hiya. :3 My LDB don't talk a lot, maybe once or twice a week. And that's because our phone bills can be extremely expensive (Canada-California), and we are both very chatty people. Then, he plans out his week and he, as he said himself, can't fit me in because he has so much going on. When ever he comes on I'm thinking about talking to him about Pinger because he has an Adroid...
Anonymous asked: this isnt a question, but i dont have anyone to tell as my parents dont know about my ldr and i dont have really good friends (not sure if they would tell my parents or not) anyways he sent me a parcel for v-day and its late because of my stupid postal system. But he sent me a letter and chocolates and he said he loved me first time ever we've only been together for2 months and its got his...
Anonymous asked: @Sarah: Thanks a lot,I appreciate your answer,it was very honest and matter-of-fact. Your description of Brett reminds me a lot of my own girlfriend. She says that as soon as she saw a picture of me,she thought I was the most beautiful girl she had ever seen. Her love and support helps so much,and I really have been better about it these past months..but a lot of that has to do with the fact that...