asked: I need advice, i dated a girl for about a year and she screwed me over. We had planned to meet and i saved up hundreds of dollars. She surprised me and got week off in september and so, me being super excited i went ahead and bought both of her tickets. About a week before she was supposed to come she left me, no explanation, no warnings, and i haven't talked to her since. That was about two weeks ago and she should've been here right now. I'm so torn and heartbroken. idk what to do ):
Move on. Anyone who bails on you without explanation (knowing you made the effort and spent the money to see them in person) does not deserve your tears, heartache, or heart. You deserve better. It’s not easy (moving on), I know that better than anyone (divorce), but with time you’ll be able to. Please read this: http://longdistancestories.tumblr.com/ldrfaq#chapter7
Anonymous asked: I bought my ticket and I can't believe it. In January, after three years of knowing him and two of dating I will finally be able to close this 12k km distance! I worked so hard to save the money to go there, but sadly I will have to return after three months, and then I will have to work again to save the money for the next trip. It's not gonna be easy, but I know we can do it!
He’s helping you with the whole money thing for visits, right? It should be something you split/help each other with. Anywhoo!
This is how I felt reading that:
Anonymous asked: how big of a mistake would it be to marry my boyfriend before we can close the distance?
If you’re asking us, it’s because you have a large amount of doubt. If you have a large amount of doubt, it won’t work. You should wait. Marriage should be something you are 100% sure about and it should never be something you seek approval/reassurance from others (anyone besides your partner) for.
Skype sleepovers are amazing <3 Just hearing him breathe as we sleep, or hear him move is so comforting and washes away all my anxieties and fears I get when we can’t physically fall asleep in each other’s arms. You’re so perfect and I love you more than anything.
You’re the best thing in my life! Thank you for being so perfect for me :*
Anonymous asked: Umm. Hi. I'm in a LDR with an Irish guy. Met him online. 7 hour time difference. And I have this strict mom and a nosy brother. How can I keep things going without getting busted?? Help. Please. Tysm. x
P.S. try to only send your message once xo
asked: My SO and I are planning to have our first Christmas together finally after being in an LDR for three years (still will be). Do you think a notebook full of random little letters I've written between August and December will be a nice gift? I can't really afford much and I feel crap that I can't contribute more for Christmas.
I’m so happy you and your SO are able to spend Christmas together! It sounds like that being together will be a present in and of itself, but I understand wanting to get a great gift! The letter idea is great, and I myself make a lot of inexpensive presents from Ball Jars (I find ideas online). If you shop now, they’re really cheap in stores!
Anonymous asked: When we were friends he was very sweet. Now that we're in a relationship, he isn't that sweet anymore. Should I tell him or what?
You should most definitely tell him! It’s not unusual for someone’s mood to shift in a case like this because, after all, the relationship has changed from friendship to something romantic. Just let him know your expectations, and hear his. The sooner the better. Good luck!
This right here is my girlfriend. I honestly don’t know what I would do without her. I recently lost my grandmother and she came from two hours away just to be with me through it. Words can’t express how much I love this girl. She makes me smile, she makes me laugh at almost everything including myself, but most importantly she makes the the person I’ve always wanted to be. She is honestly the light to all my days. This is just a start to our life together and I wouldn’t want to spend it with anyone else but her. 💕 anoth3rp3rf3ctli3
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This is my long distance love. We were able to meet in Seattle in June and it was the most unforgettable experience ever. I’m going to see him in Toronto in December, and I couldn’t be any more excited. (I’ve yet to get my passport and I really need to, but it’ll happen.) I love him and although times are tough, and we are both going to school and have work, we somehow manage to find time every day to make one another feel worth while. He’s my rock and I know I can depend on him. So if anyone just needs a little bit of hope, I know it can work. You just have to try.
Anonymous asked: I feel lately that my LDB and I have not been talking a lot as we used to! He's in school and I'm not, there is an 8 hour time difference! I know that those 2 things have not helped with out relationship! When we do talk it's kind of awkward, and I feel like it's my fault! How do I stop being awkward, and is there any tips for talking more? I need help, please! :( I really like him! PS: love this blog, it's my fav! :)
Anonymous asked: My LDB and I have barely been speaking lately. He used to always text me (all the time) and now it's like he's barely interested in me these past few weeks. School just started so that might be it, but I'm worried he has found someone else that he may be interested in and doesn't want to hurt me. We used to skype once a week and now we haven't for almost two months. I try texting him but he just seems distant. Please help?
Communication is key. We cannot tell you what’s going on or why he’s acting this way. It could be multiple things, most of which having nothing to do with you, so I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. Talk to him, express how you’re feeling without attacking him, and go from there. If it is what you think it is, you’ll need to talk about where to go from that point. If it isn’t, you’ll need to figure out how to fit the relationship into his busy schedule/work on whatever the issue may be.
Anonymous asked: Any advice with dealing with jealousy in an ldr? I feel jealous of the people who get to see my long distance boyfriend every day. I trust him, but I'm still worried he'll eventually choose someone closer. He is always hanging out with friends and hardly ever makes time for skyping or calling me.
Anonymous asked: So I recently moved from PA to TX, and my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is refusing to visit me. Originally, plane tickets would be $200, and I even offered to pay 1/2 so it was only $100. Since the price went up to $200 each, he is refusing to visit me or pay his half even if I visit him. He can afford it, so I know it's not money. We are both freshman in college, so we can only visit on breaks. I make less money than him, and I am willing to pay for all the whole ticket. What do I do?
(Where in Texas because I live here and I’d love to hang out if you live in SA!)
He isn’t willing to make the effort to visit you which means he isn’t willing to make the effort to make your relationship work. Do you really think it’s best to be with someone who isn’t giving you their all? Relationships aren’t 50/50. You both should be giving 100/100. Your all. He clearly isn’t. I think you need to reevaluate the relationship. Make a pros and cons list. Talk to him and ask him if this is really what he wants. If a relationship with you is really what he wants because if it is, you need more from him to make the relationship work.