When people write these things, I feel bad for everyone who gets a little bit of hope that it’s their S/O writing these things. -Chyenne
I know there is a pill you can take. I forget the name though. Try a simple google search. If you still can’t find anything, let us know. -Chyenne
I think that they’re a keeper. That they’re an example for everyone in a LDR who has trust issues.
I think they love you and trust you. And that’s what you need in a relationship. Especially LDR.
~Sarah
As hard as this may seem now, remember it will all be worth it. You really need to use each other to lean on, it’s great that you have open communication and that he supports you. There’s nothing wrong with breaking down, LDR’s are tough work and we all get caught up every once and a while. To out weigh the negative feelings he may get, make sure you remind him how much he does mean to you, the smallest gestures are the ones that make the biggest impact. Randomly just send him a photo of your smile, tell him that he’s the reason for it- that was quite cheesy but you get the gist. Be firm in telling him that you can handle it, he’ll be reassured in knowing that even though things get really hard, you’re in it for the long run.
- Ben
This is a re-occuring thing, so don’t think you’re alone on this one. Before I met my girlfriend for the first time I was about the same as this, I felt like I wasn’t going to meet her expectations etc. Something she did for me was since I’m 5 hours ahead, when I would fall asleep texting her, she would always leave me a little note on why she loved me. After days where I had been feeling more down, she would write a paragraph about how much I meant to her and how she never wanted to be without me. Her doing this gave me such a thrill and the confidence boost I needed, it helped me to see that she is indeed the only one for me. Knowing that she could endlessly express her feelings brought us closer together as a couple (communication is key), doing this for your LDBF could very well have the same effect- a cute way to show your love.
- Ben
Honestly, it doesn’t sound like he’s putting that much effort into your relationship. Him being stubborn is one thing, but him blaming you for everything and saying that you’re annoying? I apologize but he sounds like he’s really not worth your time. Sure you’re going to have fights/feel annoyed, but the fact that he is closing off communication by saying you’re annoying is not a good sign either. You deserve to be treated better than this. You should never just apologize to make him happy or to end the fight, I suggest you talk to him and tell him that he needs to start respecting you more, and if he ignores this once again maybe it’s best to let him go.
- Ben
Here’s your main problem: “maybe is because I don’t really believe in his words”
LDR’s are about TRUST. And HONESTY. And BELIEVING each other. You need to believe that he loves you and only you. You need to believe him when he says he’s not going to cheat on you. If you don’t, you’re relationship is going to fall apart.
Your insecurity is also another issue. You guys can work on that together, though.
Here’s some ways to help you trust him, and increase your faith in him:
If he’s never given you a reason not to trust him, if he’s never lied to you, if he’s never cheated on you, and if he’s not that kind of person, you have no reason to not trust him. You have no reason to believe he’ll hurt you like that.
You need to work on your insecurities.
~Sarah
Distance doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship. Stay strong. If you’re love is true, the distance won’t get in the way. The distance will torment, depress, upset, irritate, and be a HUGE cock-block. But it won’t break you. Not if your strong enough. Not if your love is true. <3
We have amazing advice in our LDRFAQ. If you ever need some help, check that out. If it doesn’t answer your question, we’re here for you.
~Sarah
Two months is a long time, and I guess the possibility of getting sick of each other could be there. I, personally, wouldn’t be able to see me getting sick of Brett! Of course, I’ve never been with him physically for longer than a month. I guess you guys need to talk about this beforehand. So that means SOON.
Talk about what’s going to happen when you need your space. How are you guys going to acknowledge and deal with it? Maybe you can tell him that you need some alone time, and you’re going for a walk. Acknowledge that everyone needs their own space sometimes, and go through how you guys are going to grant the other their personal time.
There is NOTHING wrong with wanting you-time. Just wanna make that clear.
~Sarah
Well, sweetie… To some of us, YOU seem like the lucky one. Some of our followers only get to see their S/O once a month. Some, like me, every 3 - 5 months. Some have to go a year at a time without seeing their S/O. Some haven’t even MET their S/O.
I understand that different situations are harder for different people, but I can’t give you any advice for this one. A LDR is hard, and if once a week is all he can give you right now, well… dear I think you need to cherish that.
~Sarah
It seems like you’re alone all the time. You suddenly resent every other couple around you. You start to crave them. You start to daydream about the times you’re together. It hurts. It hurts a lot.
But, if it’s real love… They seem to make you 10 times happier than they did. A single text message, or call from them can turn your entire day around. Everything reminds you of them and makes you smile. You appreciate the little things, like holding hands, a LOT more. Communication becomes essential. Trust and honesty become essential, also.
Hang in there, dear. If you ever feel down, we have a LDRFAQ that can help you through nearly any problem you’re having.
~Sarah
I created a new blog: one-day-we-will-hopefully.tumblr.com. It’s for people to submit their stories and hopes for the future with their long distance significant other. I just started it a few minutes ago and I’m now inviting people to join and submit! :)
Happens to me every time. You miss seeing his face and seeing him in real time. Feeling like you’re with him. -Chyenne
I really don’t think waiting is always the best idea. First off, lat time I waited, I got impatient and we started dating anyways. And second, waiting will just make you want someone else. If you want a relationship, maybe you should try and LDR, and if you don’t think you can handle an LDR, wait, but don’t dedicate your whole life to that person.
-Maddie
