Always.. We can anwser you privately or you can message one of us on our personal blogs and we can talk it out there darlin’.
Always.. We can anwser you privately or you can message one of us on our personal blogs and we can talk it out there darlin’.
I’m going to keep her name anonymous out of respect- Now before this. I never really loved anyone. I never had a girlfriend, Not even a kiss, Not even on the cheek. But beside the point
In the middle of Winter I decided to join a teenage dating site to boost my confidence and try to find a new friend. Honestly, I never thought I would find what I found. And I had the most life changing accident. 3 days into the site- as I scrolled down the list of girls. I would type something nice and see if one would reply and see my face. This went on for a few days, and I felt nothing. Nothing, 5 days into the site- on a cold and snowy day. Before I went to sleep that night I decided to look one more time and I saw, another header of a girl. There was nothing special about this girl.
She looked normal, she looked like another profile I would’ve passed her in a heartbeat but by chance my fingers stopped there. I never knew she would be much more than that. I quickly thought of something nice to put in and I put in the words “Wow, U have the most beautiful smile ;) xx” which she did.
She replied with a simple “oh well thank you :3” and I thought nothing of it. But I thought, Lets text her again and see where it takes us. This is where it started.
After the first conversation on the dating site, we exchanged our Skype and we started talking normal, and actually liked the same things. It was shocking, scary by how many things we had in common. I told her what I liked, and she told me what she liked. And then exchanged funny stories and random thoughts. That’s when I knew we were going to be good friends. And I started thinking differently about her.
On a Saturday night, only 4 days. 4 days into the friendship. We talked all night, We talked and talked for hours that night. I kept talking because I knew we clicked. By now it was 5:00 AM and I decided it was time to go to sleep. I told her It’s time to me to go.
She said “wait, don’t go”
(she told me she was in an accident and broke her leg days prior)
"I need to tell you something." What’s that? I asked
"I- I wan-" then, something happened that I will never forget in my life, ..she burst into tears.
"Oh no what’s wrong baby, don’t cry" "Nothing’s wrong, I actually like you"
"Like me?" I asked. Then she asks me this, "Yes, Will you be my boyfriend?"
I was stunned and overwhelmed. Never in my life have I had a girlfriend before and now this cute girl is asking me? I was stunned.
I played it cool and said, “Of course I will be your boyfriend. Please stop crying.”
"Thank you" She said." One more thing, will you stay with me until my pain medication kicks in?"
"I would love to" I never got any sleep that night by the time I woke up it was 3:00 PM the following day. The day after I will always remember how I felt staring into oblivion wondering how did "I" get a girlfriend. It was a miracle. A miracle by God.
For the first time in my life I felt what it was like to be in love and to be loved. For the first few weeks we texted cute sayings back and forth and Skype every day or two. But This is when I thought something.
This girl lives in Canada, and I live in the United States. I don’t have a full-time job how can I ever see her? I’m only 15, how can I fly 1600 miles to see her. To this day we haven’t spoken about this to neither of our friends or family. This is completely secretive. And that’s the pain I am suffering from. I don’t even think she knows how hard I fell for her and how hard I’m suffering when she doesn’t text me back.
When we tell our families, or tells her family what will they think of me? How will I even have ‘the talk’ with them. Over Skype? I am usually great with stress from my own family troubles but something about this made me break down inside. I love this girl. I love this girl with all my heart and I haven’t technically met her yet. Hopefully this year, but I’m always in constant fear of the future. Is she cheating? Will she grow tired of me like most relationships? Even If she DOES, I can’t do a thing about it. I live 1600 miles away in another country without a passport without the money to see her. Its been 2 1/2 months now. Idk if its been of happiness or of pain. The first month was happiness, but now..
I love this girl with all my heart. I’ve never loved anyone like her. I don’t think she knows just how cute and unique she is. but she’s slowly chipping at me. Soon I wont be myself again. Soon I won’t know how to love again.
I don’t know if I’m in deep submission. Or just above the water. Maybe I was Blind. And I Just don’t know what to do for her.
Hello, I can’t remember if I sent you this asking for help, but if you could spread the word, it would mean so much to me <3 (you can edit this bit out if you submit it).
As some of you may know, I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year (the relationship itself has been about a year and a half).
Here’s a picture of us:
Aren’t we cute?
He was supposed to move to Mexico with his family in June last year, after his graduation ceremony and after prom. Unfortunately, a mix up with his Visa and the school forced his entire family to leave in December instead. I attended prom with friends and it was fine, but to say the least I missed him.
We then made the promise that we would make sure he’d be able to come back for my senior prom.
Unfortunately, between then and now, he transferred schools to Buenos Aires, Argentina. He is an Argentinian citizen and can attend school free there, and it is a better education system than in Mexico. What this means, however, is that flight tickets for visits total to around $1000 for a round trip.
Although we both have jobs, he currently needs to pay for food (he’s living on his own), and I need to save all of my money to pay for food in college as well. We can’t afford to fly him here and back.
At first it seemed like all hope was lost.
I remembered seeing people post on Tumblr to raise money for various personal things. I realized that, with my blog, I had access to so many people who may be willing/able to help. We came up with the idea that if we could not pay ourselves, why not try to raise the money? After all, if 1,000 of the millions of Tumblr users even donated one dollar each, we could reach our goal.
It is with that idea that I set up an account on Go Fund Me, a website that lets people try to raise money for various personal causes and expenses.
We need your help:
The community on Tumblr is so always supportive and helpful, and we were hoping we could have some of your help in raising this money. Any donation, however small, would make a huge difference. (Even if we do not raise enough, we will save the donations for a later visit).
The link to donate is here. I have also created a link on my blog to the site.
Can you help us keep our promise? (wow that sounded so corny I’m so sorry).
Thank you so much for any help.
Hi, I’m 17 and I live in the UK. For the past two years I was in the darkest place any teen would be in. I was the type of girl who would isolate herself from her friends and family and I wouldn’t tell anyone about my problems. On February, I decided to join MeetMe to meet new people that I didn’t have to face. Then one day, a boy named Joel views my profile and sends me a message with a simple ‘Hey :) how are u’. After speaking for five days on MeetMe, we decided to continue our friendship on Kik and it goes amazing. We started to get to know each other, after two weeks we started calling each other ‘Babe’ and everyday we send each other song links and quotes that remind us of each other. Ever since then, I feel like my existence is worth it and thanks to him, I am finally happy as I deserve to be. He doesn’t live in the UK, not even in Europe, but he lives all the way in the USA and it’s absolutely heartbreaking not being able to see him in person. We speak everyday and every night through text or Skype. We always talk about the future, about us getting married and having children, I love it and I love him. No one knows about our long distance relationship and I don’t tend to tell anyone about it until we officially meet, which is not till July. I do plan to move to the USA when I’m 21 to be with him and fulfill the future we both want. I know some people would judge me and saying things like ‘You can’t fall in love with someone you haven’t met’, but I could’t give a toss. I love Joel, he loves me and no one can ever change that. Whoever has the same story like mine would know exactly what I’m talking about and I trust you its the greatest feeling of being loved by someone who you never expect. Joel was my light at the end of the tunnel and he’s my Guardian Angel in spirit.
It may be hard but it’s definitely not a hopeless cause. I started going out with Tommy when I was about a freshman in high school, I was 14 myself, and we’re /hopefully/ going to met each other for the first time this year. And I mean who knows maybe by the time ya’ll can see each other your parents will be comfortable with it. My parents weren’t supportive at first and now they’re like me and can’t wait to meet him.
You just gotta get them to talk and get your parents comfortable with the idea of it all. It’ll be ok, it’s not a hopeless cause but it won’t be easy, LDRs aren’t the easiest things in the world but they’re worth it.
I wish you the best of luck darlin’. Hang in there~
Honestly, I don’t think you’re two young to be in love with somebody. There is no certain age for when you’re finally aloud to fall in love. You’re young love while you can enjoy it~! :3 ❤️
Hey guys it’s Haley, I’m sorry that I haven’t answered anything in a while. Things haven’t been the best in the world here lately. My mom is having a ton of issues that require my full attention and the boyfriend and I are well, we could be a lot better. Things have really gotten hectic in my life lately so, as much as I hate to I think I might leave LDS soon.
I’m gonna give it another two weeks or so to see if things get better though I doubt they will any time soon.
In the mean time though, I’m still here so send in those questions and stories~!
I really really want to stress this. You DON’T go looking for a LDR. NONE of us did. NONE of us wanted to find out that our SOs lived across the state, across the country, over an international border or even over an ocean. This distance is NOT easy to deal with.
Yes, you appreciate them more when you’re together and get to know each other more on a more intimate level than most local couples do when they first meet. But you’re far away from the person you love most of the time. Visits come and go. They can even be short. And nothing has been more painful to me than goodbyes. I cry and I feel like something inside me is missing and empty. And it slowly gets better when we see each other again but going from distance to in person to distance is one of the toughest experiences I’ve ever had to go through.
When we and Walter met online, it was purely by chance and me having the courage to message him. We talked until one day we realized we had fallen for each other. Me not knowing ANYTHING about being in a LDR and me ever wondering if we would meet, agreed to being his girlfriend. I was naive to believe this relationship would be easy just because we loved each other.
It’s super hard. You can ask the other admins if you don’t like my answer but we’ll all say its worth it in the end because of our love for our SOs. But it comes at a price. Not everyone can handle a LDR. There’s ups and downs that local couples don’t have to deal with that we do and there’s a lot of misunderstanding on the “realness” of loving someone you’ve never met in person and such.
If you wanna meet people, go talk to people here on Tumblr or talk to your friends friends who don’t go to your school even. But I’d highly recommend not looking for a LDR. Relationships don’t happen because you actively look for them. They just happened. I tried looking for a long time and never had much luck. I gave up on looking and then Walter came into my life. It just happens.
Please don’t think I’m being rude. If you did come to be in a LDR, we’d always be here to help but as for any relationship, don’t look for it. Let things happen.
This goes for anyone else who asks how to be in a LDR. Don’t believe all the romanticism surrounding a LDR as you see on TV and movies. It’s not as easy as the media portrays it to be.
This is a less of a story and more of a confidence boost:
Hey, I’m a 14 year old girl from the UK. I just want to let you know that if you’re in an LDR. It is not strange. It is actually quite common and it is okay to be in one.
Don’t let anyone bother you, you know that the person you’re with is real (and if not, make sure of it before you tell anyone…I have found to search around this person and stalk them a lot just to make sure because I am a freakin’ weirdo*) I understand about friends who say this stuff but they are only looking out for you…even if it does get a bit annoying and if it does get to you, I would suggest to; show them a picture? Let them to talk with him/her? Maybe even just, if it gets too much for you, avoid the subject and talk to those who care.
BUT NEVER bother with those hopeless strangers who pull you down and tell you how wrong you are, how stupid you are, how strange you are because if you do, it will affect you at some point, make you feel like shit for no damn reason AND even if you try to explain, sometimes they just will never understand it. They won’t even understand how you can miss someone even if you’ve never met them.
This is your relationship. You and your partner controls it. Not them. Never them.
I also want to let you know that if there is a small voice in your head saying “no” to every worry or curiosity you wanna tell your other. Just don’t follow it. Even if it’s stupid, weird, annoying. You will be okay.. and if they find it so then it’s up to you how you continue it.
I know how it feels to be like this.
I know how it feels to worry. We all know that feeling that they might drift or even find someone knew but depends on your relationship, have you set out the guidelines? Or even set up a time where you guys can cam, game, spend time with eachother? Because that’s the big issue with these relationships, how we can make it better.
If you feel alone because your anxiety, everyone’s who’s been in a LDR or even people who haven’t knows what it’s like to worry over someone you love, who makes you happy, who is so sweet and generous and kind. We all worry about that person being taken away from our lives because we hold all dear to use close. We understand that you may feel selfish but there’s no need and even if you don’t listen to me about that, it is common amongst humans to feel that way.
I know you feel like an attention seeker or maybe even emotionally or not emotionally attached. But I can where you are coming from, sometimes you even think “This won’t work.”, “This is too hard.” but the same conclusion comes down to these statements because you don’t want to let go.
"It’ll all be worth is in the end."
We know that feeling of missing their presence even if we haven’t met them yet. We know.
We all want to wrap our arms around them, to be pulled into a deep embrace, to have them whisper sweet nothings or maybe nothing at all because silence can be the best way of feeling how nervous they are, how happy they are, to see their smiling faces, or their tears of joy. To see their arms around you in a cage where you will never be let go. To smell their scent that makes you even more in love with them, to never want this moment to end ever. To hear their heartbeat constant with yours and pounding excitedly for finally touching someone, feeling their smooth skin, their head rested on their shoulder as a sign of “I trust you.” And your thoughts are aligned with theirs, thinking “How beautiful…” You or them are. This is what we are heading for, this is what makes us want to continue our relationship, we will never want to lose this amazing person.
And even if we do, we’ll feel it again in the near future because our lives are continuous and even if it doesn’t work out, there are still amazing people out there who can make you feel that way and even love them more than you ever loved your last lover.
People need to realize that there are different kinds of relationships and they can be just as common as other relationships and share the similarities even if they are very different.
Now I will go through the most common questions of an LDR (which most annoy me, I should say) :
1. BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW IF HE’S/SHE’S REAL?
Well, he’s not horny bastard all the time (no offense to guys who are horny all the time.) He’s very deep, he has a lot of emotions, he makes me laugh, whenever we are playing Minecraft together we never make any sexual innuendos…okay, I mostly do that because I guess I’m more the pervert in this relationship. People seem to assume guys are the pedo ones and horny ones but to be honest, I think I’m more of the one who says sexual stuff or flirts a lot.
He never asks to see my body and that’s the same with me. We cam every single bloody weekend/holiday, we speak to eachother a LOT. He’s definitely a boy and even if he was a girl or trans, I don’t give a fuck. He can be what he wants to be as long as it doesn’t affect our relationship.
BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW HE’S NOT FAKING?
I’m also friends with his mum on facebook and have talked to his brother, he never really lies but he is does cover up things if he doesn’t want me to know but that doesn’t refer to him being not real.
(This pisses me off since I have cam-ed with him a lot and even sent candy to him visa versa and yet they still ask. .-.)
2. WHY BE IN AN LDR?
Most people tend to find themselves in a LDR unexpectedly. Rather than giving up and breaking all ties, they choose to stay within the relationship while waiting out the “temporary” distance.
(Why the fuck not? .-.)
3. AREN’T YOU AFRAID OF HIM CHEATING?
(Fuck no. .-.)
This bullshit is bullshit. ANY partner could cheat. It doesn’t matter if it’s a LDR. LD has nothing to do with cheating. LD needs to have a very high level of trust, sure but that means you and your partner have to rise your communication and honesty. (Which are great qualities in any relationship)
4. DO YOU GUYS MASTURBATE (ECT…) IN FRONT OF EACHOTHER OTHER?
(This a question where I get from silly little boys.)
FFS, keep your mouth closed (you and they). This isn’t any of their business…tell them to fuck off or just walk away.
5. HE’S/SHE’S PROBABLY A PEDO.
*Leaves the conversation*
Anyway, I wanna tell you to be open, be happy, be safe.
ALSO SOME BACKGROUND STORY:
(This is gonna be really quick because my fingers hurt from typing).
I met my BF on Omegle under Minecraft. (He’s from Sweden btw). Three months later we start to date eachother, it’s been 6 months down the line and we never really argue that much just sometimes I get annoyed with his multitasking…c; I know you may disregard all what I said because I haven’t been in one long but this isn’t my first LDR, and I have many other experiences of it. We are also planning to meet at Minecon 2014 (if it’s in the UK ;-;) I am looking forward to it.
You might not have been in a LDR long but you have the wisdom of what a LDR is and how to keep it being a great relationship. Really important to read if you’re feeling down. Thanks for submitting! (:
It all started with a friend request on Tango (which by the way i had no idea that it was possible to have friends on there) and i saw this very handsome guy named Dominic G. of course i accepted it he was just so cute! so we started talking and video chatted, and we just started to fall for each other , we talked for about 5 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend on October 13,2013 :)! one week later he told me that he was going to come visit me!!! and November 4th was the first time i met him, it was simply amazing. Of November 8th. &&&& even better news I’m going to go visit him March 8!! <3